The 10 Step Guide To Being A Rockstar Worship Leader… At Home

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How is your worship leading…at home? You know, where you’re not known as “Worship Leader” or “Pastor” or “Reverend”. Maybe that is not something you’ve thought of before, but I think it’s more important than anything else you invest your life in.

Home is God’s highest priority for your life. If you can’t be a worship leader in your home, I question whether you can do it effectively in a church.

My wife and I recently started a weekly Bible study together where we are discussing Emerson Eggerichs’ Love & Respect (affiliate link). This has got me thinking about the importance of not only improving what we do as worship leaders in church, but also as worship leaders in our homes.

Sounds like a nice idea, doesn’t it? I’m not gonna lie. It’s a tough process that takes intentionality and discipline.

• Your kids don’t really care about your talents…they just want you
• Your spouse may not pour praise on you like the church does immediately following a worship service
• Home life doesn’t carry the same adrenaline rush of standing on a stage like a rockstar
• Your family knows you…imperfections and all 🙂

Being a worship leader at home is where it matters the most. I’m not impressed by your stage presence, killer vocals, and ability to lead a worship set if your home life is broken. As Arcade Fire sings in their song Intervention – “Working for the church while your family dies. Working for the church while your life falls apart.”

Something is wrong if your singing with your church while your closest relationships are dying.

So what does it take to be an effective worship leader at home? I thought of at least 10 diagnostic questions.

1. Am I modeling love for Jesus in front of my family?

2. Do I read the Bible with my family?

3. Do I crave the fickle praise of my man more than the unconditional love of my family?

4. Do I lead my family in song and engaging prayer?

5. Am I too busy at the church to hang out with my kids?

6. Am I the same person on stage that I am behind closed doors?

7. Am I speaking tenderly from the stage but harshly at home?

8. Does my conversation at home reflect Christ as my highest priority?

9. Do I have a discipleship vision for my family?

10. Which do I prioritize more: my family or my church? If I asked my family, what would they say?

So let’s go be the rockstar worship leaders we were born to be. Behind closed doors. Where there’s less of an immediate reward, and more of a true, lasting, God-honoring impact.

Question: What else does it take to be an effective worship leader at home? I think we can expand this list like crazy. You can leave a comment by clicking here.