There’s not a worship team on earth that hasn’t had to address this question. The tension is alive. What is the lifecycle of a worship leader or a musician?
How old is too old? How young is too young? Does a multi generational worship team work? What are the best practices?
I’m sure you’ve been there. You’ve had conversations with your older team members and how they feel pushed out.
You might be an older singer, musician, or worship leader struggling with insecurity later in life.
- “Are my jeans skinny enough?”
- “Is my voice cool enough?”
- “Am I trendy enough?”
- “Do I have a place anymore?”
If you’ve thought this, let’s talk.
The best answer I know how to give is to tell anyone over 40 that they need to leave. I’m kidding. Wow, relax!
In all seriousness, there is a deeper question than “too old or too young”. It’s more of a culture question.
Are we building the kind of culture where the young feel welcomed and the old are actively investing in the young? Start now creating the culture where your team isn’t focused on holding tightly to their role, but investing in others. Young or old, everyone can invest into the life of another.
Picture this. Envision a 65 year old pouring into a 16 year old. Envision that 16 year old investing in a 12 year old. Imagine a 25 year old guitar player helping a 50 year old rocker with ambient guitar tone.
Do you see the potential?
Problems arise when we get obsessed with our own usefulness. We become less concerned with the Kingdom of God and what is best for his church and become consumed with our role, our position, our ministry.
A Better Approach to Ministry
Want a better approach? What if you never did ministry alone? What if instead of simply leading worship, you used those preparation times, rehearsal times, and service times to train someone younger?
Here’s the reality – a reproducing leader will always have a spot on the team. They actually provide the most strength to an organization. Why? Because when they’re not around, they leave things in good shape.
They don’t create a culture that is dependent on their gifts or abilities. They create a culture where others are constantly stepping up. Quality rises not because they are talented but because they are pouring into others. Their very presence raises the bar for others.
See where I’m going? This is the best way to address the too old/too young lifecycle of musicians. If we’re thinking outwardly, if our hearts are for the Kingdom, we won’t be offended when more talented people surface. We’ll serve to make them even better.
It’s because we have a greater heart for the Church than we do for our own talent. We love the kingdom more than our own legacy.
That way, it’s baked into the culture that every musician works to replace themselves. The older singers and musicians should work one on one with younger musicians, coaching and teaching. Then encouraging them to step out. Even being present off the stage to encourage the younger.
Oftentimes the question isn’t am I too old or too young? It’s also more this:
- Are you teachable?
- Are you helpful?
- Do you love the church?
- Do you speak well of the church?
- Are you developing?
- Do you have a growing relationship with Jesus?
See where I’m going? There’s no easy answer, but it’s an intentional choice to create a culture where humble people help one another.
I have no problem with older musicians or older worship leaders. I do have a problem with those who approach their role with a clenched fist and don’t reproduce themselves. That is an issue. If that’s you, old or young, start loosening that grip today.
Let’s build the Kingdom together.
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Michael Sadecky says
Well conceived and articulated, David. I feel that everyone has something to teach someone else. We should all be open to learn and to lift each other up. Personally I’m gonna serve until God tells me to step down. Loving where God has me right now!
David Santistevan says
Yes, I agree Mike. Miss you brother!
DW says
I agree, I don’t think age has any relevance here (indeed it’s sad that this is being discussed). The penultimate paragraph is the most important. Most churches encourage worship team to serve elsewhere for a sense of perspective since those that are able to clean toilets, stack chairs and serve in ‘behind-the-scenes’ capacities are the real servants.
Matthew Lilley says
Great thoughts as usual David. Thank you!