Dating Questions

Last night at APEX we tackled the controversial issue of dating. Quite fun. I shared a number of principles that I offer for your viewing pleasure. Much of this is from the teaching of Mark Driscoll, pastor of Mars Hill Church. Enjoy

Christian Dating Principles for Both Men & Women

• Maximize your singleness for God.
• The most important thing about the person you are dating is their relationship with God. How are you helping that?
• Don’t pursue a relationship until you are ready to marry
• Be reasonable – don’t set your expectations too high or too low
• A date is not dating, but can become that
• Never go on a date or date a non-Christian
• Only date one person at a time
• He initiates; she responds
• Only invest in a relationship with someone you are attracted to entirely (physically, emotionally, spiritually, ministry gifts)
• Guard your heart (Prov. 4:23)

Christian Dating Questions for Men

• Are you overlooking good women?
• Are you honoring God, her, her family, her friends, etc?
• Is she modest?
• Will she follow your leadership?
• Does she have noble character (Prov. 31)?
• Can you provide for the lifestyle she expects?
• Do you want your daughters to be like her and your sons to marry someone like her?

Christian Dating Questions for Women

• Do you want to help him and join his course of life? (Gen 2:18; I Cor. 11:9)
• Is he tough enough to remain strong in tough times? (II Tim. 2:3)
• Will he take responsibility for you and your children? (I Cor. 11: 3)
• Is he considerate and gentle with you?
• Will he be a good faither?
• Is he a one woman man? (I Tim 3:2)
• How valuable are you to him?
• Do you want your sons to be like him and your daughters to marry someone like him?